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Dr. Megan Anna Neff and Philip explore how the nervous system works, focusing on the autonomic system, fight/flight, and freeze responses, as well as the concepts of hyper- and hypo-arousal and the window of tolerance. The conversation offers practical self-care strategies to help manage daily life and better regulate one’s nervous system. Transcripts are available at todaysautisticmoment.com and in accessible ...

In this Ad Free episode, Dr. Megan Anna Neff explains how summer can push the Autistic nervous system beyond its window of tolerance and why self-care is essential for protecting capacity, clarity, and well-being. She breaks down the autonomic nervous system with practical cues for recognizing hyperarousal, hypo-arousal, shutdown, and the freeze response, and offers concrete, personal tells to monitor stress, f...

In this episode, Hilary Otey and Coda Brucki discuss Queermunity, a rare safe space designed to meet real nervous-system needs of autistic and queer community members through low-sensory programming, accessible design, and affirming care. They explore practical safety measures, staff training, accommodations, and community support that allow people to show up as their true selves—even under pressure like citywi...

In Proud, Autistic and Queer, Coach Lee Hopkins and Philip discuss how Autistic and Queer individuals defend their dignity and right to exist in the face of negativity from government and media. They share their personal journeys toward pride and offer practical ways to find and build affirming, inclusive communities, with transcripts available in dyslexia-friendly format and multiple languages (Spanish, German...

An ad-free interview exploring how autistic and queer pride can be acts of self-preservation, resistance, and healing as callers stay rooted in their identities despite pressure from family, religion, and society. Philip and Coach Lee Hopkins offer practical guidance for navigating masking, burnout, rejection, and belonging, drawing on personal insights as a Black, autistic, trans man with ADHD and an autistic ...

This episode dives into how grief can leave Autistic people feeling unrecognizable, exploring what “finding yourself again” can look like and how support can be genuinely helpful without rushing the process. Lisa Morgan joins Philip to unpack disrupted routines, alexithymia, and other real-life challenges—from late Autistic identification to disenfranchised grief—and to offer grounded language and practical ste...

In this episode, Gaby, a Minnesota Independence College & Community alum, speaks with Philip about finding authentic community and friendships during her college experience. She discusses participating in excursions and how the Ambassador's Class prepared her to be a guest on Today's Autistic Moment, with many friendships forming through the intersectional MICC family. Transcripts are available on the linked pa...

In this episode, Gabby San Miguel shares how joining Minnesota Independence College and Community (MICC) transformed isolation into belonging through small groups, apartment living, and student-centered supports that foster real friendships and independence. From everyday moments like movie nights and roommate dynamics to mindfulness, leadership opportunities, and authentic inclusion, Gabby explains how consist...

Boundaries are about self-protection, communication, and relationship design. Coach Lee and Philip discuss how to manage boundaries and the responsibilities of others.

Go to todaysautisticmoment.com for the transcripts. What are boundaries? Do Autistics know what our boundaries are? How do Autistics communicate with others as to what their boundaries are? How do our caregivers who may not be Autistic communicate their boundaries to us? Whom do we really harm when we do not maintain our boundaries? Becca Lory Hector talks with Philip to answer these questions and many others a...