Self-Care: Practicing the Pause

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Self-Care: Practicing the Pause

July 26th, 2026

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Last episode Dr. Megan Anna Neff talked with us about the fundamentals for managing our nervous system. We talked about the window of tolerance, managing pain, and becoming aware of what is hijacking our nervous system. In this episode Carole Jean-Whittington and I will talk about one important element to the Autistic’s nervous system called Practicing the Pause. The power of the pause improves self-awareness. When we pause before reacting to stimuli we also take time to reclaim our autonomy and protect the power of our choices. Later in this episode Carole Jean and I will talk about how practicing the pause is important for late identified Autistics and ADHDers as they meet the challenges of societal negativity on many of our intersectional identities.

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Philip King-Lowe

Welcome Back.

Carole Jean Whittington is the Founder and Chief Research Officer of the Whittington Institute and creator of the Atlas of Authentic Identity trademark. It is an orientation framework design to help adults navigate career transitions and other major life changes with clarity, self-trust, and purpose.  With more than three decades of leadership across catastrophe insurance, hospital administration, public health, and stress science, Carole Jean helps people understand where they are today so they can confidently choose their next step forward.

Please join me as I welcome Carole Jean Whittington.     

Philip King-Lowe 

Carole Jean Whittington, welcome back to Today's Autistic Moment. It is always a pleasure to greet you and have you on the show.

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast 

Oh, it is always a joy and a thrill to be here with you, Philip. Thanks for having me.

Philip King-Lowe 

About a year or so ago, you posted an interesting subject on LinkedIn, and it was practicing the pause. And I liked how that sounded. And as part of my Summer Self-Care Series, I really want to have this conversation. Now, what I love about this conversation is it's following my in-depth conversation with Dr. Megan Anna Neff about managing our nervous system. And this is an appropriate follow to that because practicing the pause is about managing our nervous system. I'm sure everybody who is hearing this conversation has had the occasions when you've received some kind of mail that is not good news. You've received a message that has disturbed you. You may have received a message that confused you, and you're just not really sure how you're feeling, but you know that something doesn't feel quite right. It doesn't feel right to you, and we want to emphasize that if it doesn't feel right to you, those are your feelings, and you are entitled to them. But what is most important here that Carole Jean, and I are going to talk about here is practicing those moments when, before you react, before you write, before you respond, you take a moment to practice your pause. And I can say from my own personal experience, this is not a simple thing to do because..

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast 

No, it's not.

Philip King-Lowe 

We're in a society where everybody answers everything right away. Not to mean, not to mention, practice response to everything you read or hear or what. But the point is, is that sometimes you need to stop and breathe and pause before you go on with your next step. And so, Carole Jean Whittington and I, we're going to talk about this very topic. Caveating on what I just said, Carole Jean, what important information can we give to introduce our audience to this topic of practicing the pause?

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

You know, you brought up something really important, Philip, and that's when we receive information, right? How we immediately feel that visceral response in our body, be it you know, an email or a phone call or a text message or something we get in the mail or something that we observe. There's an external event that occurs, and then we immediately respond, and when we talk about practicing the pause, I also talk about the power of the pause because there are so many things that drive that are those unconscious drivers of why or how our body, our nervous system is responding to information in a particular way, especially if it's something that immediately activates our system in a way that puts us on high alert. We're in that fight or flight positioning, and it's one of the things that is so important in reclaiming. And I'm not saying we're sometimes we're claiming it for the first time in our lives, but it's claiming or reclaiming our autonomy and our power of choice, and so I say that this is where it begins because through awareness. That is where we then bring things to a conscious place where we can choose. But to create an awareness around something where we're not just reacting to those external stimuli, we have to begin with reflection, because reflection brings about awareness. Now, let's just be totally real here for a second. We know that in our world as neuro distinct humans, we are wonderfully wired brains and bodies, and for a lot of us, myself included in this, there have been a lot of experiences in our lifetime, that told us that we weren't safe to slow down, that it wasn't okay for us to pause and take the time to think through something or figure it out because it wasn't on everyone else's timeline, and so we've gotten into a habit and a routine of responding as quickly as we can, because we feel like we have to, and it's like this nervous anxiety that builds up. And so, pausing is really about a practice of starting in places that are super simple, and doing it in ways that feel good. Because when we talk about pausing, sometimes it's like, oh, sitting still makes me want to jump out of my skin. I can't do that. Well, there's lots of ways to do it, and I even have some a guide I'm going to share with y'all that gives you 30 different ways to just play. But when we're talking about that reflection and that practicing the pause, it truly can just be seconds. It can be a breath, and sometimes just starting with that allows us to ask ourselves an important question: What do I notice right now about my body? And the next question is, what's the story I'm telling myself around what just activated me? And that's so powerful.

Philip King-Lowe 

I know exactly what you're talking about, and. My husband wanted me to ask you a question because he has recently learned that he is ADHD, and his question is fantastic. Because what about those of us who are late identified in our Neurodivergence, and we're just navigating our way through what that's going to mean for us.

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast 

That is an excellent question.

Philip King-Lowe 

Yeah, I mean, talk about practicing the pause when, quite frankly, we're paused. You know, literally, just what do I do with this now? You know that's very important, and you know it's a good idea to pause during that time. But you see, when someone is really discovering their sensory processing for the first time, they've been so used to questioning that, or even responding negatively to that, because they've been told you should not feel this way, and now they're giving, they're having to go through and say, you know what? Yeah, that sound really is loud for me. You know, so let's talk to those who may have just recently learned that you're Neurodivergent. I will say that when I first learned practicing the pause was really difficult because I had been used so long for just reacting, you know, and so and so I had to unlearn to do that, and just learn to take a few moments to think about what was that person really saying? Or better yet, how do I need to understand that person? So go ahead, talk a little bit about that, Carole.

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast 

Thank you so much for that question because it really and for what you added to that, Philip. First, if you are newly identified, I am also late in life identification, and I'm AuDHD. And just from my heart to yours, congratulations, and I celebrate with you. It is such a beautiful thing to have the gift of awareness about ourselves, and what you're speaking about is something I talk about quite often, Philip, and it's the processing phase after identification. And for so many of us, that late identification in that process, there is so much that goes on. It's like the perfect storm of every emotion you could possibly pull from, from relief and excitement and elation to finally have. Oh my gosh! I have an answer. I'm not broken. There's a reason I feel and see the way that I feel and think. And oh my gosh, why didn't somebody catch this sooner? What would I have missed? And why would I have, you know, why have I struggled for so long and nobody found this? There's so much. There's a grieving process. There's an identity crisis that happens. And to your point, Philip, it really is in that moment after late identification that practicing the pause and the power of the pause is truly where we begin, most often for the very first time in our lives, to truly get to know who we are, our authentic selves, and not who we have been conditioned, or responded and contorted and masked ourselves to the nth degree in order to feel safe, because early in our lives someone said, "You can't possibly be bothered by that light. It doesn't bother anyone else. That is nope. Smell. What smell are you talking about? Why do you have a headache? Nobody else smells that. You're being dramatic," right? And so we start to hear those messages come back when we are expressing our genuine experience of the world, and we begin to realize somewhere inside of us at that early age we don't have the tools to go. Well, wait a minute. No, I actually am feeling that, and we might be experiencing different things, but mine is just as valid as yours. But in an early age, what we do is go, "Oh, well, I must be wrong." Everybody else is experiencing it the right way. So now I need to start paying attention, and I'll just stay quiet. And I won't share this anymore, and I'll just suffer through and power through and white knuckle my way through everything because I think I must be wrong. This isn't right. It's not like what everybody else has, and it's that that we carry with us. And I think late identification, in a lot of ways, for challenging as it is to not have known sooner, I have found that just as much as those who knew early, those of us who found out late, we all have this experience of we've never asked ourselves, "What do I like? What's important to me first?" Not how is everybody else. What's going on in the world? How do I make sure that I belong and that I'm safe and that it's okay? And really, the practicing the pause and the power of the pause, especially in late identified life, this is where we begin to truly use our authentic voice.

Philip King-Lowe 

Yeah, and we also learn that our response to sensory stimuli that is all a natural part of who we are. Yes. It's just that, like I say, when we start experiencing some of this sensory input, and we start to accept it and learn to live with it. There's going to be those negative messages that are going to come in those times when we were told, "Well, we're just not cooperating with everybody else. We were just being selfish. We're just, you know, we have to. We're like one of those people just has to make trouble in the crowd, to actually saying yes, this really is how I feel. This is what how this is impacting me, and actually giving yourself the permission to tell other people, no, you cannot cross my boundary to tell me how something is affecting me, and you're going up against whatever messages you've been told all this time. And so I know, like for myself, when I was learning about my sensory processing, even years after I learned that I'm Autistic. That when someone would say, "Oh, by the way, the sound of the lawnmower really bothers me.” I found this thing. You know what? It's interesting that they said that because the noise of a lawnmower disturbs me too. But I didn't know that until somebody said so.

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

Right.

Philip King-Lowe 

And that's where practicing the pause, or as you say, the power of the pause, is just taking those times to say, you know what? I know what that person's talking about, and isn't it interesting that I didn't realize that until now? You know, and practicing the pause is something that brings you back to your own center. It helps you to let go, you know, of the messages you've been told, the messages you're still being told by a society that you know doesn't accept different sensory inputs. You're saying no to those things, and we need to pause, stop, and do some thinking. And you know, I know this is challenging because, as I say, we're in a society where everybody responds immediately to everything, but actually. When we stop for a while and process, we find ourselves giving ourselves and maybe even those who are not responding so positively towards us that opportunity to what's the word I want to use? Maybe just come to a place where we just don't agree on this matter, and it's okay that we disagree, whatever that may be. Go ahead, Carole.

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

There's a lot to really bring in because you brought up so many little sparks of whiz pops and joys in my brain. The power of the pause does a couple of things, and number one, it's your permission slip that you give yourself. So, with the power of the pause, I invite you grab a piece of paper, post it note. You can grab markers and some coloring paper. It doesn't matter. I want you to create, and/or I invite you to create a permission slip for yourself that says, "I give myself permission to pause.” And in that pause, here's the big shift, because most of us have been domesticated. We have been trained into this process of thinking about what everyone else wants and being very judgey about it. The power in the pause is that we also give ourselves permission to be compassionately curious about ourselves, sometimes for the very first time in our lives, and it's I'm gonna just hmm, I wonder why was my first response like to immediately text back to this question? Do they expect that, or really, I'm going to be compassionately curious and go, what do I need in this moment? That question alone has been life giving for me, and when we talk about our sensory system, that compassionate curiosity and that pause, that permission slip to just get compassionately curious, and until just silence the judge or say, you know what, the judge is honest, honestly there to keep us safe, and it's probably so exhausted that part of us that has been so extra judgey, it's been there trying to keep us safe, and that poor judge is exhausted. So, with some gentle love and kindness, put your hand on your heart and just go, "Okay, judge, I want to thank you for trying to keep me safe, and I want to take care of you and nourish you for a little bit. And I'm going to turn the volume down on the judge, and I'm going to get compassionately curious, and I'm going to come from a place of it's okay. I give myself permission just to see maybe something I haven't seen before.” And in my work and research, when I look at specifically what I call spicy burnout within neuro distinct population, so many of us, especially in late identified life, when we have gotten to that point where we finally are identified. We've most often have gone for decades in what I call a chronic cycle burnout, and it's moving up and down. I say we have five levels of spicy pepper from our jalapeno, where you've got just a little bit of heat, up to the ghost pepper level five, where you're so hot you're not. Everything starts to shut down, and we tend to vacillate up and down within that because we've normalized all of this exhaustion and this performance. And what happens is our sensory system-not five areas. I look at seven areas, including vestibular and proprioception under chronic stress, our sensory system becomes overly sensitive or under stimulated, and this happens for our group and community. It can happen simultaneously where we're overstimulated in one area and we're under stimulated in another. We might feel numbed out in our in a sensory area, and so part of that pause and that compassionate curiosity, especially if it's around a sensory experience, is to go, huh? What have I noticed in the past when I've experienced that lawnmower sound, does like my heart start to race? Do my ears hurt? Has the degree been different? Is it? Do I experience it a different way if I'm inside the house versus outside, and I'm experiencing that noise right there with no buffer? Because one of the things about sound that's really interesting is that it isn't just about the sound, the acuity, the volume, or the quality or tone of sound. It's about the vibrational resonance that sound produces. And so, if we are already stressed, if our nervous system is already dysregulated, the vibration of sound can make our body even more anxious, even more exhausted, even more heightened. And so, when we pause, we're giving ourselves the gift of noticing where we are in this exact moment because the true power of the pause, going beyond our permission slip, going beyond our compassionate curiosity, is that in that moment we are claiming the only place that we ever have the greatest power to create our life, and it's in the present moment, because it comes down to choice. And pause gives us awareness, and awareness gives us choice.

Philip King-Lowe

Coming up after this next commercial break, Carole Jean will talk about a practice and stillness guide to help with the practice and power of the pause.  We will also talk about the importance of practicing the pause when so many of our intersectional identities are being attacked in our social and political climate.

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Welcome back. In last segment Carole Jean spoke about how the power of the pause helps us claim our autonomy. Practicing the pause becomes empowering for late identified AuDHD people to be compassionately curious about who they really are. Now we are going to discuss how Autistics are thriving through taking time to practice stillness.

Philip King-Lowe 

Where do you see Autistics thriving and not just surviving regarding practicing the pause?

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

I love to go through and share this practice and The Stillness Guide, and take clients through this because to me it is so beautiful. Because I will walk in and I have a group of late identified folks most of the time, and I tend to work with a lot of executives, and so they come in and they're late identified ADHD or late identified Autistic or AuDHD, and they're like, "There's a lot. I was like, "Yeah, there is, and it's okay. Let's just let's just get compassionately curious and let's play and get ex, you know, and explore this. And as we start to go through some of those practices in the stillness guide, and I send them home, and I say, "Look, you do what you want to do. Pick and choose. There's, you know, you don't have to do all 30 of these. You don't have to do one a day. Just pick one. There's a couple different categories. Start where it feels good for you, and it's so beautiful because I can't say that there's been one person who hasn't come back to me and said, "Oh my gosh, Carole Jean, I feel so different. Just even after a week, I didn't realize, and I hear this so much. I didn't realize X, Y, Z. And this really was way, way easier than I thought it was going to be. Once I just started to play and not expect myself to check a box, and like didn't add this to my to-do list. I did kind of like what you said, Carole Jean. I just like, oh, let me just see. I'll play. I give myself permission whenever I think of it. I'll just go look at something and pick one thing for five, you know, five minutes or less. I always believe in doing something quick, you know. I like a quick hit to get started, and it's just amazing because as we start to continue working together over time, those first 30 days, the first 60 days-I mean, it's just tremendous the difference, just the pause makes in someone's life. I've seen people go from a ghost pepper level five burnout down to a level two, where it is just they said, "I feel like I'm in a whole new world. I'm a new person. I have a whole new fish bowl. Somebody took me out of that bowl that was like really miserable and the water was dirty, and now they put me in this bowl that has clean water and I can see things, and I have more energy. I'm actually sleeping better. My jaw, my TMJ doesn't hurt, you know, like it used to. So there's so many things that start to come out and to see that thriving, but the most beautiful thing that I hear over and over again, and I experienced it myself because I've been burnout free since November of 2019, and this is the longest I've been in my whole life that I haven't been in some degree of burnout, and I didn't even know it was possible for me, and I didn't know that where it leads me every day is even greater than the day before. Even on tough days, I'm still like I still feel way better than I ever did before. But what I hear people say is, "Oh my gosh, I never knew. this wonderful person inside of me. Like I actually feel safe to be me. I feel like I belong to myself. I trust my own thoughts and feelings. And to me, that is the most beautiful thing because the question that I ask myself every morning and my purpose and goal and passion in life is what is possible for humanity when every neuro distinct person in the world has an energy isn't in burnout and is truly thriving.

Philip King-Lowe 

I'd like us to take some time to talk about, of course, our intersectional communities that are so part of who the Autistic community is. Especially since we're living in a time when there's so much negativity around us, and it really is affecting our nervous system's ability to process. Because news is, like I said, coming from every place imaginable, and we're absorbing it. We continue to hear about the relentless social and political attacks on the LGBTQ plus communities. And we continue to hear the negativity towards Neurodivergence, and so many of our other communities of color, you know, and so much more. You know, these are moments when a lot of those who are part of these communities, myself including, we're practicing the pause because we are feeling violated in our human rights. Which, and let me just say, you have every right to feel that way because, quite frankly, that is what's happening. Your right to exist is being questioned and put up for a legislative decision or a judicial decision, and you know, it's horrifying. Our safe spaces are being erased, and you know, just being politicized for the sake of winning elections or winning a score point with some special interest group. It's all very exhausting, and so the power of the pause here is we're talking especially about self-care. That as all of these things are happening around us, practicing the pause means that for myself and others will speak differently, but it's my opportunity to say whatever they say. No, I am hanging on to my own personal dignity, even if they have to feel like they have to question whether or not I should be here or not. Carole Jean, can you please speak to some of this?

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

There is such a tremendous amount of conversation in the world, and for most of our lives. I mean, I was born in the early '70s. That it's not just externally that the world might be saying, you know, do you have the right to exist or not? But for a lot of us, I know for me, I can only speak for myself. I questioned my own right to exist for a long time, to belong. Do I really belong? And when we add in layers of intersectionality and different experiences. It's truly, truly the power of the pause that gives us space to acknowledge our worthiness. That we already are worthy. That we already are enough. We don't have to earn the right to exist, but right now it might feel that way. And with the more identities and the more minority intersectional layers that we add to ourselves, as we start to recognize them, especially for people of color and those who might be in different economic or social categories as well. It is a tremendous place because this is where the power of the pause allows you to check in with a place that we tend to bypass a lot. We tend to be from the neck up; our brains are running at 900 miles an hour. All the thought loops, all of the thought gymnastics, trying to figure out what's safe, who is safe, where is safe, and sometimes in our world right now, none of it feels safe. And it's when we take the moment, in that pause, in that stillness, that's where we begin to give ourselves not just permission to pause and recognize what are we thinking or what are we feeling, but it's also from the neck down. What do I notice about my body? What do I feel sensations in my body? You know, maybe you just don't feel safe looking at your whole body or feeling that. Maybe you just start with your toes. Maybe you just start with your chest, and it's in those moments, in those places that we aren't creating safety, we're creating bravery and permission for our own safety. We give ourselves permission because, in my research, the two biggest places that are greatly disrupted in our well-being is our internal emotional safety and our self-trust. And when you are in an LGBTQIA+ if you are part of any community where you aren't. Considered what part of the whole, or that you belong, because you're, you know, X, Y, or Z, because you might be a little bit different, or you think differently, or your values and who you are doesn't necessarily align with all of the speak in the world, which I think is always a bunch of hooey anyway, and I think each individual person is the most beautiful light in the world, and to express who you are is a genuine gift. But we can't even begin to see that, or feel that, or to even process how to navigate our own safety and belonging within a world that is so loud and so judgy. If we don't first pause to hear ourselves.

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Philip King-Lowe 

Can you please share with us some resources?

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

Absolutely. So down in the show notes, I've shared with Philip. I created this beautiful Stillness Invitation Guide, and it is 30 days, and it's just beautifully created. It's all kinds of watercolors, and it's things to look at, and it's really small, micro stillness approaches, and it helps you redefine stillness because that doesn't always mean sitting perfectly still. It might just be noticing your breath for a moment. It's about anchoring through sensation, you know, a soft object or pressing your feet in the ground. It's also about setting a time container that feels safe and good for you. You might just start with 30 seconds, and it's all about allowing movement because your body needs to move in order to process and flow. And so, anything that you want to explore, that 30-day stillness guide is there to help give you some options to help you, also have some tips for if it feels super uncomfortable, and there's also journal-based prompts for those who like to explore and take it a little deeper. So that's a wonderful resource and just a place for you to get started.

Philip King-Lowe 

Well, Carol Jean Whittington, thank you so much for being on Today's Autistic Moment, and for sharing your compassionate wisdom as always. And I always look forward to talking with you. So thank you so much for being here today.

Carole Jean Whittington, Beyond Chronic Burnout Podcast

Thanks, Philip. I appreciate it. I loved it. Thank you so much, my friend. This was a great conversation. I'll talk to you soon.  Bye bye.

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The Adult Coffee Club for Autistic Adults in Minnesota are held on the second Tuesday of every month (weather permitting) at Dogwood Coffee located at 2700 University Ave W. Suite 100 in St. Paul, Minnesota. The Zip Code for your GPS is 55114. The Adult Coffee Clubs will begin at 3:00pm to 5:00pm on August 11th. September 8th. October 13th. November 10th. December 8th.

Understanding Autism virtual classes are offered by The Autism Society of Minnesota. The next classes will be August 10th, 12-1pm. September 14th, 6-7pm. October 12th, 10-11am. November 9th, 12-1pm. December 14th, 6-7pm.

On August 6th, beginning at 9am to 12pm, Jillian Nelson and Zephyr James will present a workshop at The Autism Society of Minnesota entitled: Finding Yourself Beneath the Mask: Tools, Experiments, and Everyday Masking Strategies for Unmasking.

On September 10th, beginning at 9-11:30am, Abbie Wells-Herzog will present a workshop at The Autism Society of Minnesota entitled A Realist’s Guide to Employment Supports.

Join the fun at AuSM’s 9th annual Jigsaw Puzzle Competition! Held on October 3rd, beginning at 8:30am to 3:30pm in the iconic Huntington Bank Rotunda at the Mall of America or online on Zoom.  The Mall of America is located at 60 E. Broadway, Bloomington, MN 55425.

Go to ausm.org to learn more about these and other social and recreational programs, educational events, counseling services and support groups at The Autism Society of Minnesota.

MNeurodivergent is a social club rooted in a vision of bringing Neurodivergent Minnesotans together to build meaningful connections.  Its core principle is to foster an environment where all are treated with dignity and respect regardless of ability or preferences. Go to their website mneurodivergent.org for more information, become a member, volunteer and attend their events.

Be sure to check out the events at Queermunity. Events include finding out about local LGBTQIA+ resources for those who have relocated to the Twin Cities on the 4th Wednesday of every month. Trans Health Insurance Enrollment. Fruit Salad Queer Open Mic on the fourth Thursday of every month. Crafting and Game Night on Fridays at 4pm to 8pm. Beats and Breath Yoga Based Movement Class every Saturday at 11am. Go to their website at queermunitymn.com to learn more about Queermunity and their many events.

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May you have an Autistically Amazing day.

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All of the guests meet with me on Zoom to record the interviews. The interview transcripts are provided by Otter. The podcast is prepared and edited on WavePad Masters Edition by NCH Software. The podcast is published by Spotify for Podcasters.  The music that you hear is licensed to Today’s Autistic Moment by premiumbeat.com